Updated Note (Wow such a waste of time...)

Hello femmenoir93, I assume you were born in '93 since that's usually how people pick their emails (if it isn't then ignore the next sentence). That makes you only 1 year my junior, so hello there, fellow cohort/generation member.

Since there's no particular account to PM to, it makes replying to you a little hard, and I don't want to send random emails to a wrong account by mistake so we'll have to make do with this chapter/Author's Note. Your reply to my reply (lol) was:

...I'm going to say three things.

One: The "turn of phrase" was further amplified by other such "phrases" that I have no doubt you will find benign, despite their contradiction of the views you purtport with your "I'm not antifeminism" claims. Also, you should know as a writer that words, and their tone, and the biases you carry through your work, aren't negligible, and aren't harmless.
Two: I'm not contesting the latter half of this "chapter", as the part you tacked on after attempting to lecture me was not as fallacious as its preface. In fact, I said nothing contesting any of the facts you listed. That was you ranting about issues you think feminism has, which is why you'd rather have the label "humanism". I actually agree with the facts you listed, but the accuracy of those facts has no bearing on the need for support for the feminist issues which presumably encouraged those "facts" from opposing constituents. Yes, men who are raped deserve justice and deserve help. That does not mean women who are raped deserve justice and help any less, and it does not render feminist campaigns to assure it is so exaggerated or unfounded. Yes, men need paternal leave. That does not invalidate the need for better maternal leave.
Three: the fact that you compare feminists to N zis and even use the term "femin zis" really says all I need to know. I previously enjoyed your work, but don't worry - I'll leave you alone to your circle jerk now and won't disturb you again. I don't want anything to do with someone who finds it okay to mock feminism, and to use antisemitic language like it's nothing.
I'm not going to mock you with a quote from my country, but here's a quote I hope you'll think about.
"Genuine equality means not treating everyone the same, but attending equally to everyone's different needs."

And since this is the internet, it's best to be as transparent as possible too, so I hope this issue will end on this note. You're free to reply, but I don't think there'll be any further issue to pursue anymore after this.

1) I think that there are times when you should watch your words and times that you shouldn't. And obviously to you, those times are very different from me. You can make this an issue of antisemitism and accuse me of being anti-feminist from this single phrase, but I think that you are purposefully reading only the words you want to read. I have written many stories, was the point I stated in my previous reply, and those stories are a far more solid proof of my ideals than, as I have said, a single turn of phrase. Take that as you will.

2) The points that I stated were not even addressed to you personally, because as I also stated later, I wanted to not waste writing space by just immaturely arguing your accusation. I also didn't dismiss the need for female rights. I stated that there should be equality. Perhaps because I didn't mention female rights, you now take it that I don't believe in the need for them, but that's an assumption.

3) I don't know what you have against the term, but I have met plenty of people who are deserving of the term and duly recognize this as a rude term. Is it inaccurate? Nope. I was being, if it was not already obvious, intentionally rude to you.

Why? Because you were rude to me. Don't try and be all high and mighty by using accusations like antisemitism and how a writer's words are far-reaching and whatnot. I know exactly how far my reach is, because I actually get to see my traffic stats. I also know very well what kind of audience my readers are, because those who seek stories like mine are a particular kind of audience. In turn, I tailor my stories for that particular audience.

In the end, I was triggered by your review because it was basically an accusation of being anti-feminist, which I cannot abide. Like I said, the issue is close to my heart, being not just a woman, but having entered the working world and faced the discrimination that does indeed exist and continues to exist. But now I've realized that your opinion is really not worth much, because my beliefs will not change just because you accuse me of being otherwise. It's also not worth the effort to clarify things with you, since we will work separately to promote our cause.

Also, since we were on the topic of being rude, my apologies for calling you a feminazi, as you are not one. They exist but you're just a rude person. I have nothing against your beliefs because they seem to be similar to mine, but the gist of this entire argument is not centering around the point of beliefs anymore. It's that you were rude to me and so I was rude back to you, whilst thinking that this was an issue of belief. It's been a lesson in awareness and self-confidence to me, which I will duly take to heart.

And finally, to address my cognizance of the impact of my writing: Yes, I actually do write so that my views can be heard and hopefully exposed to a greater public. I hope that people can be kinder to others, and that's part of why I write what I write. Each story theme is picked because I want voices to be heard. I don't get how you can agree to these points and still maintain that my messaging is otherwise.

You say that you previously enjoyed my work. Thank you. Now please leave because losing you as a reader is not hurting me any. If you have written any previous review, also thank you, because nearly all the anonymous reviews I had received until now, were very nice and constructive. But now you're neither constructive nor polite, so kindly take your leave. I don't owe you anything nor am desperate for readers. Even if I had fewer readers I'd rather quality over quantity. (Also shout out to all you guys who've supported me until now. 3)

I got pissed because your review ignored those messages. Why bother reading them if you are only going to pick out points of contention...? And what's the point of putting in so much effort into planning and research of a story when you are just going to zero in on these (to me) negligible bits? Are we even reading the same thing...?

I don't know what you see in my stories, but as the writer? You're the worst kind of reader I have ever met. Please, with all seriousness and I will even beg you: do stop reading my stories. I feel like my nearly 10 years of effort in creating them will be wasted on you. Please continue to believe your beliefs, because I also agree with them, but please.

Stop reading my stories.

Best of luck to all your future endeavors. May we never meet again.

Memory25

P.S. Just a side note that I feel is not really needed because I believe all my readers (except you) are awesome and respectful: please do not vilify this person. I made this issue public not to target them, but because they were anonymous and I couldn't reply otherwise. I know they put themselves out there and gave their gmail, but don't mob people okay? Mobbing people is deplorable. If you feel like they are interesting and want to chat, go ahead, they are a fellow women's rights supporter after all. But yeah, don't spam them with flames or trash people.

Hey guys, so...I've never thought I would put an author's note without a chapter, but I received a review regarding an issue I feel is quite close to my heart. It's not that big a deal, except that obviously the person sent it anonymously so I can't reply through a PM. Congratulations, whoever you are, you've gotten the attention you were craving for and you can now affirm your existence.

The review says this: "Before anybody jumps on the feminist bandwagon" this phrasing is objectionable. You're reducing feminism to a trendy hobby and dismissing the underlying, motivating issues the movement protests. Ignorant & disrespectful af.

I think that if somebody comes and reads the 10th chapter of a story, he/she should obviously be here for the story and not to dig up small "objectionable" turn of phrases that the writer uses. In fact, this person completely disregarded the fact that the rest of the chapter is about how Tsu-me is aware of the 'objective' perspective that Mochida is still a stupid kid, but is pissed anyway by his sexist language. Does this sound like I'm anti-feminism? Nope. So what's the problem? Oh, "don't call feminism a fad! It undermines our cause!". Cue Nazi salute. Because a cause is undermined by calling it a trend, not people who ignorantly campaign a movement they don't know about and create bad reputation for it. Ba dum tss.

When somebody protests a movement as a trend, I really would like them to go and do research on all the movements that have happened in history. Trends sound like they are trivial, but they ARE part of what make movements successful. Otherwise, the vast majority of followers would never appear, and the entire movement would be a flop. You can make a quick google search online with keywords "feminism" and "bandwagon" and get a ton of articles that state that feminism IS a bandwagon. It's a meaningful one, but it's still one. So get over yourself alright? Your righteous anger is being focused in the wrong direction of nitpicking on tiny turns of phrases when I bet you have never really participated in any kind of real activity. In fact, I question whether you are a regular reader of mine, because otherwise you'd know that all my stories explore important issues about equality and acceptance.

In short: I'm calling you a feminazi who is all hot air and no action.

Also, I'm not in support of the phrase feminism because it makes it sound to skewed towards just females. Humanism is the word I believe should be used, because feminism started out as equality for all, but nowadays it's just "more equality for women". It's just like how "everyone is born equal, some are just more equal than others". My response to THAT, in the language of my country Singapore, is: "So clever, come I clap for you."

Fact 1: Male rape and molestation is just as important as female rape and molestation. Men should not be expected to enjoy their time with strange women just because they are men. It's EXACTLY the same as men raping women and telling them they should just lie back and enjoy it.

Fact 2: Men should get just as much paternal leave as women. The entire reasoning behind not giving them that much is because they don't spend as much time and thus don't have as much of a connection as the woman who gives birth. Guess what you're doing by not giving them that time?

Fact 3: If women can be emotional, so can men. Men should be able to cry without being seen as weak, because men are still human not blocks of wood. You don't tell a man his whole life that he is supposed to be a block of wood and then turn around and accuse him of having no empathy. The science of psychology states that that's not possible.

If you think I'm digressing, it's because I feel that wasting an entire chapter page just being pissed at a reviewer is...a waste. I'd rather inform my audience more about important issues. Since, y'know, they are important. As a storyteller, I like to show my readers the important issues instead of stating them outright, but since I have room, just so you guys are on the same page:

Bullying is bad (duhhh, Lemonade)

Families should be supportive (duhhh, Lemonade, Adoption, every story I've written ever and will write)

Transgender people should be able to be transgender without people protesting their nonexistence just because they can't have children (Recurring Steve)

A person can endure and overcome many things as long as they have someone/thing more important to them (Adoption, Recurring Steve)

If you want to be respected, do what you believe in, and not just what is the loudest. (Every story I will ever write, as well as my own life story)

Go ahead and put all these in a Hallmark card. I think there already should be a few (just not ad verbatim). Anyway, I may as well also take the time to thank all the readers who have followed me from the start. It's been an awesome six years and hopefully it'll be another six or more. I will always love writing (and as a copywriter I even do it for a living now!) so if you won't give up on me, I won't give up on you!

Oh, and boy do I have some plans for Tsu-me! Look forward to the Ring Battles, because there's a big one I've already written out. When we get to that part of the story...so uh...patience? XD

Ciao!

Memory25

(This is not a promise to post something quickly, but I'll get to that eventually, like I always do.)